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Hello, I'm suffering big anxiety about my girl.. It doesn't go a minute until I thinking of her. She lives kinda far from me (2-3 mil) and I'm soon getting a driver licens (few weeks), but thats future and also in the future I can't always be with her ;( Because she got a life to and can't just always be with me.
But for now I can't control myself (it feels like that) just because I'm worried what she do, I mean if she doing something bad that can hurt our relationship or something. I know I can't call her evry hour and check if evrything is good and so, I want to ask you what I should do.
I don't want to control her life because I'm not jelous but I LOVE HER SOO MUCH!!
Please help.
Ps. Hope you understand me and please DONT FLAME OR SPAM!
Sounds hard :/ But maybe u can be with her every weekend at least? :)
Kaktusen
11-10-2006, 18:21
I'm thinking of my girlfriend all the time to, she lives alot more away from me then you and your girlfriend but there's not really anything you can do.
I think that if you both use msn that's a bonus since you can speak/write to eachother but there's not much you can do as I said. And yes, it sucks fucking hard to be in love with somebody far away from you :/
For how long have you been together? Cause what you're describing sounds much like you just met and are newly in love. I may sound negative when I say it'll pass.. but, it'll pass. When having a distance relationship ( I don't know if I'd count yours as one, mine is 50 Swe miles apart), the most important thing is trust. It will get you nowhere to try check up on her all the time. You need to trust that she won't do anything that would harm your relationship.
I'm thinking of my girlfriend all the time to, she lives alot more away from me then you and your girlfriend but there's not really anything you can do.
I think that if you both use msn that's a bonus since you can speak/write to eachother but there's not much you can do as I said. And yes, it sucks fucking hard to be in love with somebody far away from you hmm
We love each other ALOT, and I mean A-L-O-T. Ofc, there's something I can do and we got msn both of us.. but it ain't so personally then talking on phone does it? And she lives 3 swedish miles from me =/
For how long have you been together? Cause what you're describing sounds much like you just met and are newly in love. I may sound negative when I say it'll pass.. but, it'll pass. When having a distance relationship ( I don't know if I'd count yours as one, mine is 50 Swe miles apart), the most important thing is trust. It will get you nowhere to try check up on her all the time. You need to trust that she won't do anything that would harm your relationship.
When you say "been together" does that means when you are together or just friends? We've been friends for like 3 years and been hot on each other (not strulat) but just been hot. And it's always so complicated in the beginning cos even if you know that she loves you, you dont know if you are together or not. Cos you can't just ask her "we're together now?".. And we do trust each other =/ But I miss her alot and can't just stay away from her =/
Off-topic: I first didn't found my thread since I had checked it evryday and there we're just views and no reply's but I found it today almost on top and got happy that you could take time. It helps me alot, thanks to the replies
Slusker Svensson
14-10-2006, 10:34
Try to hold back the need to call her.
If she feels that you're on her all the time asking what she's doing, she'll have a hard time...
I had a friend, his girlfriend called him like every hour, even in school.
It ended up with him feeling bad about himself when he was on band practise, wich lasted for 2 or 3 hours...
His other friends persuaded him to finish it with her, since he was suffering because of the relationship...
Don't stir stuff up, just try to chill out, and remember what Lotta said. It'll pass.
Try to hold back the need to call her.
If she feels that you're on her all the time asking what she's doing, she'll have a hard time...
I had a friend, his girlfriend called him like every hour, even in school.
It ended up with him feeling bad about himself when he was on band practise, wich lasted for 2 or 3 hours...
His other friends persuaded him to finish it with her, since he was suffering because of the relationship...
Don't stir stuff up, just try to chill out, and remember what Lotta said. It'll pass.
Well I can't just leave her (not calling).. then it feels like I'm empty and can't do nothing and it ends up me calling her ;) Actually I just talked to her after she had been gone for 4 hours when she left my house :(
Slusker Svensson
14-10-2006, 23:08
Try to hold back the need to call her.
If she feels that you're on her all the time asking what she's doing, she'll have a hard time...
I had a friend, his girlfriend called him like every hour, even in school.
It ended up with him feeling bad about himself when he was on band practise, wich lasted for 2 or 3 hours...
His other friends persuaded him to finish it with her, since he was suffering because of the relationship...
Don't stir stuff up, just try to chill out, and remember what Lotta said. It'll pass.
Well I can't just leave her (not calling).. then it feels like I'm empty and can't do nothing and it ends up me calling her ;) Actually I just talked to her after she had been gone for 4 hours when she left my house :(
Try to sms...
It will cost you loads of cash and then you'll stop smsing every minute :P
You trying to control her is rather something that might hurt your relationship, not her having her own life.
Try to limit it to talk once a day and not evrey hour.
Sorry for my spelling, im so damn tired.
I don't know if you tried to be funny, either way, you're warned. We don't tolerate that kind of language here.
God thats hard-to-understand english to be honest. Are you a couple or not? If you're not then it sounds like you are a bit too overprotective. Also remember that in a relationship you have to trust your partner. If you arnt a couple yet then just go with the flow, be yourself and be honest and things will go so easy. Be confident and good luck with this girl! :flush:
To answer some questions..
I'm NOT overprotective.. It's just that I have been failed (word?) lots of times (Not only girlfriends) and I don't want to loose her. So now for example if she sounds weird in phone (Not the way I want) I start to confront myself and ask me if she still loves me, whats shes up to and so on. It doesn't have to be her or she talks weird in phone, it can be anything. I don't know what this with 1 word is called but I hope you get it.
Aww I want to let this uber suspicious thing fade away!! :mad:
You trying to control her is rather something that might hurt your relationship, not her having her own life.
oftopic but w/e Bobby is it you on the pitcure?
You trying to control her is rather something that might hurt your relationship, not her having her own life.
oftopic but w/e Bobby is it you on the pitcure?
No.
It's called Zero Self-Confidence. :)
If you can't trust in yourself, you'll have a hard time trusting anyone else.
If you trust in your own love to her, you'll start to trust in her love in due time aswell.
Trust is all you need. ^^
And I might be 100% wrong, but hey, at least I'm trying to help. :P
Dude, I know exactly how you feel, believe me, me and my girlfriend are just totally in love with eachother, I can't go a minute without thinking about her and how happy she makes me feel, shes just perfect for me on so many levels it's awesome.
Acctually, we've got a lot in common, my girlfriend also gives a few miles away from me (about 10, I think), but luckly I can drive, yesterday I spent the day without her (which was the first day we've had no contact except for text messages for over a month) and I was just, depressed too be honest.
But don't worry, your feelings are natural, I have them all the time, infact as I write this my stomach is in a not because I can't stop thinking about her, and how in 2 hours she's going too be in my arms.
Chin up.
But the mystery still remains, are you a couple or not?
You trying to control her is rather something that might hurt your relationship, not her having her own life.
oftopic but w/e Bobby is it you on the pitcure?
Everyone knows who bobby is r-tard ;D
You trying to control her is rather something that might hurt your relationship, not her having her own life.
oftopic but w/e Bobby is it you on the pitcure?
Everyone knows who bobby is r-tard ;D
Don't steal my words.
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